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In terms of May-December romances, there's been a longtime double standard when it comes to which half of the couple is "December": Women who date younger men encounter fascinated curiosity, judgment, and even a loaded nickname that rose to prominence in the early 's, while men in relationships with younger women are simply known as If you've ever felt a spark with a guy eight or more years your junior but hesitated to give things a try, you might have told yourself it'll never work. Or at least it doesn't have to be. Yes, the dynamic brings a unique set of challenges-but it can also be pretty great, whether the goal a fling or a long-term relationship. Here's some expert-sourced advice for a woman dating a younger man. Consider French president Emmanuel Macron and Brigitte, his wife of 12 years, who is 25 years older than her husband. Then there's Nick Jonas and Priyanka Chopra

Don't be a "people pleaser" dear - be real. You're toying with the idea of letting a complete stranger spend the night with you if he does come to see you and on top of it, you're already venturing into sexual territory via sexting prior to that even happening.

So what do you think he thinks is going to happen? He definitely thinks a this point that when he sees you, he's going to be receiving sex from you - because your actions are falling in line with sending that signal to him, ya' know? Talk of spending the night together right away, sex taking place via texting prior to even getting to know one another or having been out on one date, you traveling to him once already and attempting to see him.

Don't think one thing but then take actions that signal something entirely different. If you give a guy the impression that "you're down to fool around" immediately - that will never lead to a relationship and it will only lead to a hookup or booty call situation, and you'll feel used because he'll have sex with you, he won't want a relationship, and he'll think it's only a hookup.

And if you question that, he'll say something like, "But you were okay with this, so what's changed? So don't let that happen to you here - make sure your words and your actions align to give the right impression to the man from DAY ONE. If he's taking none - then that tells you something. If he's only taking actions that might lead to sex and a hookup and nothing more - then that tells you something.

If he only texts you about sex and doesn't ask questions or call or try to get to know you better - then that tells you something. Not if he doesn't ask you and take you on a formal date for dinner or something nice that signals he respects you and wishes to get to know you better.

Not if he doesn't call. Not if he doesn't come to see you and make arrangements to stay somewhere else for the night. All of those things above signal a lack of respect and the expectation of a hookup or using the woman for sex and nothing more. If he doesn't change that and his behavior towards you - then no - he gets no second chance. Thank you so much for your response Dear Mirror, I absolutely love your insight! I still hasn't text him yet, I figured I should let him text me first and see if he felt sorry or not I get one snapchat from him per day and I never responded.

Should I text him and try to resolve this misunderstanding? Also, I was not really replying to his "horny texts", I was trying to be cool and went alone with his sexual conversation but then I realize that I shouldn't do that. So after that whenever he mentioned "his horny" I usually do not reply or tell him to go to sleep or I am going to sleep, and I am planning to tell him that I am not ready for this kinda text and stop doing this the next time he tries. I do not know how to make him cherish me and treat me like a lady like when we just started talking, but now he is not sweet like he use to be.

I feel it should be something I have done that make him acting like this now I am not a very good texter, and apparently now he thinks I am very easygoing and "down to sex".

I do not how to treat him from now, what should I do after he texted me? Thank you dear mirror for replying me so fast! Mirror, this is Anonymous Mar 2, AM with clever and crafty "ex". So, I have been applying all that I have learnt here and in the recommended literatureand reading the comments to stay the course, take inspiration and help keep myself centred.

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Reading through some of the older comments from the popular Disappearing Reappearing Man discussions, particularly the comments from Gem50 and Peter, I was struck by how similar some of clever "ex's" current behaviour is to Gem50's Virgo.

He is aware that things are different, and has even said he prefers things the way they are now and mostly seems happierbut he is also struggling internally? I have called him on that and made it clear he has to deal with it himself.

Some days ago, he texted from overseas, asking if I "missed him" he was feeling insecure and sought reassurance.

I replied that I think it is he who misses me, to which he said "Yes! He would usually text that he had returned, say hi, etc. He did not, although we did meet when he turned up. In other words, there was a wave of fear and he pulled back. There was some tension that evening and, when I breezily wished him a "have a good trip" for another forthcoming trip, he got a little mad. He had instigated the fight so that he could receive the emotional satisfaction of kissing and making up.

Misery just wanted company. He made me his emotional punching bag and I fell for that - despite knowing that this is one of their little tricks. In any event, it seems clear to me that he is struggling - internally? In some of these areas I see improvement, but when he grows frustrated with having to prove himself, he acts out and reverts back to previous bad behaviour - not all the time, to be fair, but on occasion, as I am now seeing.

Mirror, do they ever change? Is it ever too late for them to change? I know change starts from within and they have to do the work. How do I push him to be a better man?

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To fulfil his full potential and not allow him to be lazy as all the women in his life have allowed him to be? Does part of it depend on his level of interest? That is, he will not want to lose me if I walk and hence, he will make the effort? Hey again mirror I totally agree with you that this guy who tells me that he wanna see me cry is insecure man. I was really confused that he has feelings for me and that was why he always insists on me On the other hand he is so rude to me That day I suggested something and he said stay quiet in front of everyone and I was embarrassed and told him don't ever talk to me like that and now he is the one who is mad at me!!!

What is the deal with this behavior? He always projects his mistakes on me and be mad at me without any reasonable excuse Anonymous Mar 25, PM, "I am starting to think I might be wrong too because even though he asked me to wait almost 2 hours longer without any good excuse rather that he had a few things to do, I was the one who canceled it" You cancelled it - as you should have.

It's disrespectful to keep someone waiting like that, your time is valuable too. And when a man starts to signal that you're not a priority to him - you are not required to tolerate poor treatment like that, nor should you tolerate that. You did nothing wrong here. He was rude, he was ignorant, he was disrespectful, he did not make you or his plans with you a priority and as a result of HIS actions, you had to cancel.

There's nothing to misunderstand about that, it is what it is - and it's HIS fault, not yours.

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If he treats you like this and then when he calls you "jump" - he will interpret that as you being desperate for male attention and willing to jump at the opportunity for it, even when the man has treated you poorly and taken you for granted.

He already knows he owes you an explanation. You don't have to tell him that. And if he's a decent person, he'll offer one without you asking. How YOU love yourself and how you handle yourself - your own actions - are what signal to others that you're a "prize. On the flip side of that, if you respect yourself don't tolerate poor treatment, do not have sex on the first date, do not get drunk or drink too much, etc. And if he walks away from you - LET HIM - because that's a big red flag that all he wanted to do was use you for sex, and he had absolutely no intention of considering a relationship in the first place.

HIS actions are also speaking loud and clear - are you listening to what they're telling you? This is a big red flag dear "he told me "but you had sex with someone who is not your boyfriend before Honestly dear, I believe this guy's out to use you for sex because his actions are falling in line with that.

Don't let yourself be used here dear. If he's going to be ignorant about it and walk away because you won't permit him to use you for sex - then LET him, because he's not a good guy if that's the case. Gentlemen do not do this to women. He is who he is and unless HE wants to change, nothing you do or say will force him to do that. He may or may not be compelled to change by you leaving, however, if he's this deeply insecure, chances are it'd take a lot more than that.

Meaning, HE would really have to want to change and not because of things going on externally, but because he really, truly wants to change - internally. Don't take him on as a "project" dear. Many women do that and think that over time, they can have a positive effect on the man and his behavior and that in time things will change.

And while that's a nice dream, it's not reality. Because again, the reality is that we cannot control others, we can only control our reaction to them. Additionally, we cannot help those that do not want the help, or that don't think they need it.

Anonymous Mar 27, AM, "What is the deal with this behavior?

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He always projects his mistakes on me and be mad at me without any reasonable excuse. They lash out at others, they exhibit odd behavior, they overcompensate, they attempt to control others - it's just what they do.

Which is why I strongly advise AGAINST dating deeply insecure men because staying with one can actually be incredibly damaging and leave you deeply scarred yourself. Great post Mirror, do you agree with me? I concluded that this guy is a manipulative player who is not serious enough to sit and speak about his feelings directly I concluded that this guy's actions and talk are part of playing the game on me with bad intentions because if there was any good intentions he would be at least honest and stop playing these games So what I did is that I ended everything with him Do you agree that I did the right thing?

I am in my thirties and you know women are desperate in this age, I want to marry and have children before it's too late that is why I always question myself if I lost this guy Dear Mirror I need your opinion and thoughts if you read my comment Love or hate?

Jealousy or bullying? I wanna see you cry 2. I like seeing you mad 3. I feel so happy when you are upset 4. I wanna lock you in a cage 5. He makes me mad and then he acts mad at me 9. He laughs when I am hurt and "say do you expect me to comfort you" and then laugh at me I help him but when I need his help he says he is busy or ignores me. I just read all of the discussions here now! And I am in the moment of venting, angry and hurt at the very moment Why are women get all these from men?

I wonder but not surrender who has create all of us to began with? The human natures, nature of human. I am hurting badly I don't hate men, and I think some women have the same behaviors that made all men hate uswomen in general, as we hate some of the men's nature. So to whom we shall blame? I am so frustrating with the issues I have read in this discussion. MOA, is there any good solution on people getting hurt from a relationship?

How am I going to make a final peace with myself? One of my girlfriend recently said to me that she cuts off sexual activity from all men since she is very much a sexual person in nature. I don't get it? I knew even the monks and nuns have the desire of sex! We are human, human has seven desires as nature, how can we repress the sexual desire like that?

That's not natural and human. If there is only the Platonic love or called spiritual love ONLY, that's insatiable in human nature, who can take on that for our short life span? I need to understand this better from MOA, would you share your minds with us? I appreciate it. I'm not taking him on as a "project", Mirror. Not too long ago, when I let him back in after cutting him off, he did seem to understand that he needed to be a better man.

And for some time, it did seem that that's exactly what he was trying to do. I saw glimmers of change. Perhaps he's expecting me to revert to my old self, act insecure and needy, and chase. I'm not doing that, of course, it's exhausting - to the point where I might even be ready to call it quits.

I'm not thinking straight so I shall take no action now. Riding the elevator earlier, my watch read "" I think I know what you will say about that. Mirror, I just saw the numbers "" again. A few days ago, it was "", "" and "". What's your take on this? This is an area I'm not familiar with. PO, "Do you agree that I did the right thing? If you sensed him being evasive and vague and non-committal - then chances are there's a reason for that.

He's either playing a game, he's insecure or he's emotionally unavailable, non of which make for a great relationship. Anonymous Mar 29, PM, "Love or hate? Jealousy or bullying? He's an abuser who clearly suffers from low self-esteem which creates control issues within him.

You need to remove yourself from this situation dear. No one enjoys spending time around someone who's abusing them, nor should you even consider doing so.

Let me explain. Sometimes people come into your life to be "teachers" for you. Sometimes they're not meant to be your lover or your husband or your friend - sometimes, they're meant to be a teacher. And the life lesson they are teaching you, while very painful. Because through your painful experience, this person, this teacher, has actually taught you what NOT to tolerate, what NOT to do and in doing so.

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So believe it or not - a lot of good can come from these painful experiences, if you look at the individual who hurt you as a "teacher" of sorts.

You may not have known what you wanted or needed or were worthy of previous to meeting them, but after your experience with them - they have helped you narrow down what you do want, what you are worthy of and what you need from another individual as your partner. Events have somewhat overtaken your views about change not being possible unless they really, truly want to change.

This entire week, he has flaked and "disappeared" after a fairly good week last week save for random "Hi" texts which I ignored, followed by more texts "Hi! After ignoring those, he called, and began babbling on about mundane topics, then after my monosyllabic answers asked "Anything new? I ended by saying we'll "talk later. This is a replay of the birthday let-down in December where he had buttered me up with good vibes and promises, then failed to follow through on purpose so that I'd become upset, emotional, and give chase and hand him the power.

I see the same pattern this week, and it happened without any warning although it clearly was premeditated and deliberate. I had called him "insecure" and it seems to me that he is now attempting to trigger that and other fears in me, to make ME the unsecure one. It also feels like a "punishment" of sorts. He's also flaked on other things; on some of these things, it's to the extent that my reaction is that it's laughable to even think it's going to happen. Not good. Reminds me also of the saying blowing hot and cold - hot manipulating ; cold true colours.

What gives? Isn't that downright mean, mean-spirited and cruel to let someone - whom he's supposed to love - down like that? What good things ever come from such conduct? I would not do this to him but he apparently, has no qualms about doing this to prove a point and gain the upper hand. It's disappointing, sad, upsetting and yes - hurtful. I've been reading and thinking - I don't deserve this.

On the contrary, I deserve better, someone who will be man enough to work on himself, and lift me up, not bring me down and make me feel bad about myself. Who needs that?

Who wants that? So now, I've gotten to the point where I'm ready to walk, for good. It's too draining and I'm not wasting more years investing in someone who isn't even interested in investing in himself. Thank you so much MOA for your advices You are helping me overcoming my sadness and vulnerabilities Thank you. He's certainly not making you a priority or fulfilling your needs, he's abusing you and toying with your emotions because of HIS own issues - and if he continues along this path, I can assure you he will NEVER have a healthy functioning relationship.

He will always only ever create toxicity in women's lives and he will end up alone as a result. Being in this situation is NOT healthy - and you need to remove yourself from it ASAP without even bothering to explain yourself to him. This is one time where I honestly think just "disappearing" on someone is truly the best thing to do. Hello Mirror. I met him to tell him that perhaps, we should spend some time apart as I would like to date other guys.

I also said I wasn't sure we could be friends as I had never done it and I wasn't sure I could. And, I was thankful for everything he had done for me, etc. We had already made plans to have dinner the next day, so we did. But that whole afternoon after our "talk", he was in full game mode, mirroring my communications and so on. Clever fellow!

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Honestly, I think I have not reached the point where I am ready strong enough to just up and disappear. At least, no compelling event like birthday stunt has occurred which would compel me to do so. It's also currently somewhat difficult as he is working with me on some projects and we had to meet twice this week for that. I do see however, first hand, what dating an insecure individual feels like.

It makes the woman feel "less", question herself, wonder, etc. All not good things and I am getting tired, as well, having had the benefit of reading the material and posts on this site, I now know that I deserve better.

Mirror, do they ever only change when THEY themselves, within themselves, desire to do so? What would compel them to change? A drastic life-altering event perhaps? You said I could check in if I heard from him again.

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I just received a text from him!!!! About to declare bankruptcy on my business. Very hard time. Is he referring to my recent suggestion 2 weeks or so ago to meet up? Was this text really meant for me because it was sent by iCloud to my phone. My inclination is to respond: "Was this text meant for me. Call later. Please advise. MOA it's Anonymous from March 16 and March 10 again with text from reappearing man who randomly texted this evening, "Unfortunately I cannot go there.

I am about to have to declare bankruptcy on my business. Very hard time". My friend advised I text: "Sorry to hear about your troubles, call me if you want some company.

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Your thoughts? Anonymous from March 16 and March 10, "My friend advised I text: "Sorry to hear about your troubles, call me if you want some company. You do not reward poor treatment from a man by giving him more of your time and attention because men have a tendency to translate that as "desperate" :- When a man ignores you for two weeks, then sounds one weird text and - BAM - he gets an instant response or a response the same day - that basically tells him, "You can disappear on me and treat me as poorly as you want and no matter what, I'll still be here.

This man disappeared and ignored you for two weeks - and you responded the same day - and then offered your assistance.

See what I mean? You offered assistance to a man that's been treating you poorly. I may not be telling you what you want to hear, but I AM trying to help you with a bit of "tough love" so bare with me here.

My thoughts are - you're going to have to accept that you've placed yourself in limbo :- By jumping on his communication instead of showing him consequences, he now still maintains the power and you are once again in limbo.

Jul 01,   6."He's far more insecure and concerned about the opinions of others, but not giving a fuck seems to come with age." 7."Younger guys are just all over the place and they don't know if they really. Jun 28,   Plus, as Sherman says, refusing to "succumb to outer social pressure, shame, stigma or limiting beliefs" will help your relationship survive. Your love success will be one more example of a great older woman/younger man relationship, helping to "normalize new relationship models." Be the sexy, intergenerational change you want to see in the Samantha Vincenty. Are You Dating an Insecure Man? In the beginning insecure men come on fast and strong, spreading compliments thick, for about the first 3 or 4 dates and professing to love you by the fifth. They talk strongly and often about a future with you very early on, too early, and tend to fast track you into the bedroom by doing so (because they know.

All that response did is reassure him that you're still there, willing and waiting on him, which is not a good thing to signal a man because as much as I hate to say it - it can lead to them taking you for granted and not making you a priority.

As a result dear, there is nothing you can do at this point, other than accept that and keep moving forward with your own life.

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He's disappeared numerous times, he doesn't make you a priority, he hasn't asked you out again in some 5 months, he doesn't call. You deserve better than that and if you keep accepting his poor treatment and responding to it, signaling to him that it's okay to treat you this way and then offering him assistance as a reward for that poor treatment - then yes, he'll keep taking you for granted and popping in and out of your life :- So if it were me - I wouldn't respond to this man ever again.

Or at least not until he's either apologized, or invited a "talk" of some sort. If his communications didn't include either of those two things, he'd get no response from me at all. I am in the same boat for the past nine years!

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I truly appreciate your commons here. Mine its been done for good after I dropped my conclusion letter to him from last night. Although I see him now, as a little mouse who tries to nipples a bit here and there Well, I am moving on, no third time for me, no third time charm for me either. If he gets back, I will definitely make him to eat the consequences that he caused me in my life. Hi MOA this is April 10 pm. It was actually more like 8 days since I heard from him rather than two weeks.

Regardless, you did not mention how long I should have waited from the time he texted to respond. Just curious for the future, what is your recommendation? Mirror, this is Anonymous Mar 2, AM.

But now, with recent events him taking me for granted, not making me a priority, reverting to old ways, games tricks and stunts - despite knowing that I know what he's up toI have to.

I am forced to. I thought I was holding my own well and this is when he went into game mode again but all it did was made him think I was still there, waiting and willing. All the games and stunts are doing is pressing my buttons and making me anxious and upset, and it's just too much.

I don't deserve this. So, I will have to use NC again, possibly for the last time. To be honest, this breaks my heart because I thought he had changed, or was beginning to, and truth be told, I had invested in him, in this process.

And there were reminders of things past, where he went out of his way to help me and stand up for me in certain situations, which I will never forget. I know what you said about not making him a project and I did keep that in mind. I think I also know what you'll say now, so you can dish out the tough love if you like. Anonymous Mar 2, AM, It is what it is dear - it's a valuable lesson in self-love.

You are important, your happiness matters, you are the only one who can, and will, ever look out for yourself properly, you deserve to be happy, you deserve to have a man in your life that cares for you and protects you and aims to fulfill your needs, and you deserve to be loved in a way that's real, healthy and uplifting.

Hi Mirror and all you wonderful ladies on here- just an ate!

Older woman, younger man - somehow deemed socially unacceptable. I've dated younger men who were terrified their friends and family would find out, but I've also dated younger men who see nothing wrong with it, and have been happy to be out with me (and matter-of-factly correct any mistaken impressions that I'm with my son).Author: Cindy Gallop.

I started to give up on love and ever meeting a decent man but i continue to work on myself and my self esteem daily and most importantly learned very important lessons from my past experiences and now i have finally met a decent guy!

He always wants to take me out,he comes to pick me up, he listens when i speak, he compliments me, respects me and always pays for dates! He's 33 and recently divorced but on cordial terms with his ex he never speaks badly of her either which is very important because it shows that he is not bitter at all and doesnt place all the blame on her.

He seems to be very happy right now and in a good place in his life. When we are together his positivity is contagious and rubs off on me and i feel more positive and relaxed and most importantly he doesnt spark any insecurities within me like trying to make me feel old and washed up like no man would want me because im 30! Remember ladies- only the Insecure Losers who usually dwell in basements in their 30's LMAO and have'nt much to offer a woman would do such a thing!

Thank you Mirror for shedding the light. Im taking things slow and steady with this guy and even if nothing more than a friendship comes out of it at least i know there are still decent gentleman around who would love, respect and cherish the right woman.

Its not about lowering your standards it's just about realizing what's really important. The really good looking ones will usually have a harem of women chasing after them and this will spark insecurities within a lot of woman and cause turmoil in the relationship. I actually find myself more and more attracted to this guy the more time i spend with him because he treats me nice and of course i also treat him just as nice So I started NC and he has been texting, but not calling after not receiving any response to the texts; unlike 1st round of NC.

In one of the texts, he asked if he could "call to say hello" - no response. You succeeded and I ensure no further heavy lifting by you. You are smart good and savvy and as the saying goes: Good better best, Never let it rest, Till your good is better and better best. All the best! My initial reaction was,? Anyway, I texted back saying, "You are who you are, and you clearly are still not ready for what I have to offer and perhaps may never be.

I thought you were serious about becoming a better man. Call me sometime if and when you get ready, if I'm still single then, we can talk over dinner. Take care. I'm just plain tired out from all this. Thoughts appreciated. You are smart good and savvy" He basically admitted that he was attempting to make YOU do the work the heavy liftingand that you were smart enough and savvy enough to not let that happen.

He knows exactly what's going on and what he needs to do, and if he chooses to do nothing about it, then you have no choice but to accept that with grace and dignity and move on, which is what you did there. In retrospect, the preceding 4 weeks or so before this latest and final round of NC was an exercise in him trying to get me to chase. He had allowed his fears and insecurities to get the better of him and pulled back on several occasions, and on at least two occasions he was explicitly mirroring me in text communications, before I got fed up and told him I had had enough and wasn't playing.

Mirror, you are right. He well understands fears and insecurities and how they can be triggered and brought to the surface. Yet, what has he done all these years to deal with them? By getting others to chase him?! I know that all his previous girlfriends chased him, but - he was turned off by this and had no respect for them. He had said he intended to man up, to step up to the plate for me and so on, but I see little evidence of this.

Argov is right, they don't respond to words, they respond to NC. Even on the last day we spoke before I deployed NChe knew something was not right and I was upset. He said he wanted to send flowers the next day, but didn't. Frankly, it's disappointing, and it's sad. If I had never stumbled across this site, never read the literature, and not done some of the work, I never would have realised that any of this was happening and would have let him push me over again - and me and my emotions would again have become roadkill.

More importantly, I now am able to see myself - and him - through clearer eyes. It's tough. I have learnt so much, and still have so much to learn. Hi Mirror, I thought I would write with a short ate. At any rate, 2 days later, he texted from yet another country a casual text regarding some political developments in our home country it was like he was having a conversation with himself.

It did not call for a response so I remained silent. That was it. Perhaps this is it, perhaps not. Who knows? I am trying not to think too much or care too much. Ultimately, stepping out on comfort and familiarity, and into the new and unknown is lonely and scary - but isn't this part of the journey, of overcoming emotions, fears and insecurities? And as was said in an article, "Just do you and don't worry about us, because we're going to do whatever we want to.

You can't make us do anything, just point us in the right direction and we choose not to follow, that's on us. Anonymous Apr 24, AM, "Ultimately, stepping out on comfort and familiarity, and into the new and unknown is lonely and scary - but isn't this part of the journey, of overcoming emotions, fears and insecurities?

If you're not willing to step outside yourself and explore new territories, ways of doing things and ways of looking at things - then you're not going to grow. I think the message that gets lost and that many get confused about regarding my opinions and the tactics I suggest on this site is - it's not geared towards getting the man back.

I don't worry about ways women should exhaust themselves trying to get the attention of men who have already proved they're not worthy of your attention in the first place. That's a pointless effort. Instead, many of the tactics and opinions suggested here are geared towards self-growth and improvement, becoming "whole" and always striving towards exhibiting the "best" version of yourself and not getting run over and left for dead - so that in doing so, in becoming "whole" and happy with yourself and confident.

Kinda' like that old saying "You get what you give. But if you become a higher version of yourself and you begin to exhibit and emit a higher energy, a more positive energy, then you're going to get the same right back. You're going to start to attract like-minded individuals right back to yourself.

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If you want things in your life to change, then you have to change things in your own life and about yourself. That's the type of investment that really pays off in the long run.

ate: He popped up again, texting about meeting for our favourite sporting activity he's a lot better at it than I am - no response.

Two hours later, sounding agitated, he texted again asking if I had received earlier text and if the answer was "no", to at least text that and he would "move on" with others. These texts are just little taps to get me to chase and then he runs off again when he receives no response because, as you pointed out, he knows that he has lost control.

I see that he hasn't changed how is that possible in 2 or even 4 weeks?

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You are right, it is so much more rewarding to turn all of one's attention and focus on yourself, and focus on self-improvement and growth. This is not a message that people want to hear yea, even many of those who pass through this site; even yours truly, initiallybecause it's easier to take the easier route.

Just remember - the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again. Last february, we saw each other again after 2 years and he started pursuing me, though things didnt go smoothly straight away, things have been going great with us again and the relationship is levelling up, then last last saturday morning I kinda walked out on him, we were sleeping beside each other when he left me in the room to answer a call in a hurry, naked, and then i got upset and decided i need to get out of his house.

I realised now that it was such an immature thing to do.

Jul 31,   You'll thrive in the game of dating younger men if you can avoid the bad behavior of your fellow plus felines. Cougar Etiquette What Not To Do When Dating A Younger Man. What is it about older women? It still seems more common for men to seek out younger women, but one of TODAY's most-read stories continues to be this post on why younger men fall for older Felicia Brings, Susan Winter. Some insecure men will also idealize men in successful positions or men who seem to "have it all" on the surface: the pretty younger girlfriend, the family man whose home life always seems happy and free of problems or tensions, or the bachelor who has freedom and social excitement in his life.

You know jumping into conclusion and just storming off like that without really asking him why. Even when he really pleaded to me not to go home.

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It was only in the morning when i wasnt mad anymore that i realised my action was very hasty. Anyway, i did swallow my pride and went back to his place to tell him im sorry. But he didnt open the gate and his phone was off. I basically told him that i understand if he doesnt want to see me anymore but was hoping that he'll hear me out one last time and I wont bother him anymore. He did message me back and said that he was still asleep and apologised that he missed my call coz his phone was dead and he said that am probably at my dentist appointment already.

And so i asked him if i can see him after my appointment and he said 'it's ok, i'm not mad or something'. I decided to swing by his place anyway afterwards before i head back home coz it's quite near my dentist but I missed him coz he was having lunch somewhere so I figured he didnt want to see me so i just said sorry on the phone and he said sorry as well for overreacting.

He was planning to come to my event that night and when i asked him if he is still coming, he said he's not sure anymore and he didnt come and i think that he probably wont message me anymore. My heart is heavy and my judgement on things a bit cloudy and i need some sound advise, and one of your advises worked before so i am hoping you can help once again. Anonymous Apr 26, PM, "My heart is heavy and my judgement on things a bit cloudy and i need some sound advise, and one of your advises worked before so i am hoping you can help once again.

You don't want to come across as desperate, clingy or too emotional, and you've already apologized. So everything you can do, you've already done at the moment. They've already figured out who they are. Maybe not all the time, but a lot more often than younger women. They are all-around much more attractive to me. You know this is the kind of person who's going to tell you exactly what they want and they are more sure of themselves than the people my age or younger.

Older women are much more well rounded - they know what they feel and why they feel it. It has a snowball effect all the way around. It's adventurous for both of us, because it's a whole new exciting journey. Younger women just don't allow me to grow in the ways older women do. I considered it a hell of a jump start on life. Certainly, there are challenges for the men as well as the women in these relationships. For example, the issue of having or not having children came up repeatedly:.

My second - I was 28 and she was 41 - lasted three years and we lived together for one year. The main thing that attracted me was the overall calm of an older woman. There is a frenetic energy with a younger woman that can be very exciting and very cute, but not for my personality.

Neither of my relationships was about being mothered. Both women were professionals, very focused on their work lives and extremely confident and sure of themselves. That was very attractive to me. Ultimately, Lenny's last relationship ended when he wanted children and his partner of 43 did not. Of course, the issue of "Will I want children later on? In vitro fertilization by donor eggs and other reproductive methods have greatly changed the fertility prognosis for older women.

Pregnancy at ages once reserved for "miracles" is now a medical possibility. Other challenges for the younger men occurred in the form of disapproval and criticism from friends and colleagues similar, although not as severe, to what the older women experienced. The men my age and older were jealous that I was with her. They would look at me as if I had something they wanted and didn't have and, because I was younger, they reacted more strongly. And women my age disapproved of the relationship.

I guess some of these people thought I was trying to prove something - I wasn't. Our relationship just made me feel great. She was great! I was proud of who she was and what we had together. Overall, however, it seems that such criticism is not as big an obstacle for men in these relationships as for women.

In fact, some men received support and admiration from peers and co-workers. They respected what I had with her, which was an emotional connection with an experienced, centered person. Most people's reactions have been good. There have been no negative attitudes or comments given to me that stick out in my head. Actually, many people have asked my partner and me for advice.

The men to whom we talked spoke about the advantages of being in relationships with older women in terms of the serenity and comfort, the growth opportunity and the honesty they were afforded. But more than any other advantage, they talked about the positive sexual relationships they experienced.

2. He thinks you still have feelings for your ex.

They all commented that sex with older women was better. What negatives? I cried, I laughed, I went back for more. The advantages can be summed up in two words: intense marathon. Are you kidding? An older woman is more sure of herself and brings that to the relationship. She knows what she wants and how to communicate that to her partner. I like not having to worry about pregnancy and an unwanted child. I do not feel the desire to have one and the lack of anxiety over that issue is relieving.

Lisa is also in her prime and we have the most intense sexual relations I have ever had. You may try to please them and they'll tell you if it isn't working. I loved it. That's a turn on. Absolutely no negatives about sex? The best! The sex was important - but I was really concerned about what she needed and desired.

She would take over and go from there. It made things a hell of a lot easier, because we were just there to have fun. Unless you're Kim Kardashian, there's just something a little creepy about being stalked. He looks over your shoulder when you receive a text.

He may nonchalantly ask who you're texting or he might outright demand to see your phone. He oftentimes feels like you're hiding something from him if you're on your computer or phone, even if you're just checking your work email or texting a girlfriend a recipe for lasagna.

At first, you're swept off your feet by his sweet thoughtfulness. But after a while you start to question his lavish gifts and attention. Is he motivated to give you gifts out of pure love, or out of a desire to buy your affection and ensure you won't leave him?

He can't quite shake his suspicions that you're cheating on him. He may accuse you of flirting with the waiter, having an affair with a coworker, or just looking around for someone better. It isn't necessarily that he doesn't trust you; it's more about him feeling like he's not good enough for you so it's just a matter of time until you find someone better. Within minutes of leaving after your date, he'll text you that he misses you.

At first, his attention is so sweet. Who doesn't want to feel so desired? It doesn't take long to start feeling overwhelmed with his obsessive attention. He wants to see you every day and gets upset if you have other responsibilities that take you away from him.

He has a way of making you feel guilty if you need to work, run errands, or meet a friend and can't go out with him. It's normal and it's a good thing to be sensitive to the moods of your partner, but with an insecure man, his mood will be totally dependent on you.

If you're happy and loving toward him, he will be in a good mood. If you're frazzled, trying to juggle a thousand things, and don't have time to constantly assure him that you're in love with him, he'll be sad and depressed. His co-dependent behavior puts an extraordinary amount of pressure on you to always make sure you're in a good mood so he doesn't get down. No one likes to be criticized, but insecure people take even the kindest, most constructive criticism really badly.

They have low self-esteem and cannot bear to have their suspicions about themselves validated when someone points out a flaw. If you open up and tell your partner that he's smothering you and you need a little time alone, he's likely to turn it around on you. Instead of listening to your concerns, reflecting on his behavior and promising to back off a little to give you space, he's turns it around.

As a single mom, she juggles six kids, work and laundry with the help of God, family, friends and wine, though not necessarily in that order. Sign in. Join YourTango Experts. Photo: getty. Dawn Marie. LoveSelf January 25,

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