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At first, your ex was a dream. They came on strong with seduction tactics, showering you with praise and wanting to know everything about you. But then came the manipulation: Maybe they started giving you the silent treatment, blaming you for everything that went wrong in the relationship, or bringing other people into the picture to spark jealousy. And finally, after all this, they discarded you. They waited until they knew how much you loved, wanted, and needed them, and then they cut the cord.

I also found out at this point she was messaging other guys via network site and was very flirty indeed! Anyway I took her backwent on holiday to Egypt where she nothing short of bullied my daughter aged 8. I stood up to her and that was it again! Over but no, she played me again. Thats another storey! I meant it! All seemed good, she was on meds and seeing counselor.

Then again I found out through my kids that she had change over this past few weeks. Was very hard on my daughter again yet her son could do know wrong! He is a terror by the way! She reduced my daughter to tears and threatened but despite this my kids hid it from me, not wanting me to be cross!

Jul 08,   In this article, you will learn how to regain your confidence and put your life back on track after dating a narcissist or someone with these tendencies. More Author: Yourtango Experts. Jan 27,   How to heal after dating a narcissist or sociopath. Share Tweet Pin It Relationship Tips. by Aly Semigran, And because of this, you're extra susceptible to anxiety, depression. During PTSD after a sociopath, we're likely to look to alcohol, weed or other drugs to handle the shock, overwhelm mind-blowing stress and trauma. Avoid this as much as possible and within reason. Even non-drinkers dive in for a glass or three of wine or vodka in the months of PTSD after a sociopath.

She is now gone, said my kids are lying and just want us to split up. She was overheard by them bad mouthing me to her brother and bad mouthing them which she totally denied! We are over but I still question as I write thiscould I be so wrong? I just loved her so much and did all I could but was never enough i always felt.

I saw her in the playgound tonight, she was very smug and I had arranged to give all her stuff back that was at mine. That through everything I regret so much!! She removed my name from her within two days after Egypt holiday! Do you think I might have a sociapath as an ex? I have my heart In my mouth as I think of your children.

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First losing their mother, and then this woman. She clearly has issues. To treat your children in this way is appalling. Their mother only died in I should have put a smiley on the end of my question asking if she is a sociopath because especially after reading on here I have no doubt at all! Your comment. It is the only comment I have read here, that has made me feel very sad.

Perhaps that was because when this happened to me I was a grieving mother. Which is why the last one faked that his daughters mother was dying of cancer it was all a lie and his daughter was going to have to live with us. It is really sad. No care for anybody else except themselves. Whatever she is. You need to take time out for you.

Your grief was such a short time ago. She sounds selfish and wrapped up in herself and not good for you or your children. You talk about all of her needs. After what was nothing short of abuse and bullying to my daughter whilst on holiday in Egypt in July, I thought I gave her it both barrels especially on our returnthats a story in itself and was over again. This was the time she admitted she had a problem and would do anythingie therapy!

I also sat her down and just explained to her that my kids have been brought up differently to how yours have, there mum was incredibly loving and absolutely doted on the pair of them, I also said that my daughter craves female attention and could really be so close to youyou just have to be softer with her!

She said I know and Ill change! It didnt last and over this past month she slowly changed back and started snapping again then reducing my kids to tears! I think thats the hard thing aswell because when my wife died yes ofcourse it was devastaing and a shock, when I saw her gone there was almost instant closure. I lived with her depression for years and suicide always came up in conversationwhat Im saying is that there was always a possibility that this would happen and had no choice to accept and try to build a new life for us.

It was incredibly tough and ofcourse still is, my wifes memory is with me constantly. I guess what Im really saying is that I thought I was ready to love and be truly happy! Thats like a double whammy and hard to accept at the moment! I am very sorry to hear that you went through something very similarthrough reading I have caught bits of your experience but Im not fully aware!

Just thankyou for this site, it is a great work you are doing and helpful to so many! Its incredible to me that the spaths are so programmed and predictable, machine like, but only when you see the truth or have expreienced it! Shes still married and is someones wife. You can bet they were the instigator.

Getting married knowing you dont love that person breeds only one thing resentment, which is then aimed at the other person through self hate and that emotion is misdirected.

Im telling you this man to man. Im also terribly sorry about your wifes suicide, that must leave you without the ability to completely achieve closure. My feeling is, and I might be wrong, just throwing out a bit of intuition after reading your postNo matter how long you dealt with her depression, and I know how trying that can be, you dont get quick closure when tragedies like that happen to people we Love My feeling is you are still dealing with that on such a deep levelnot realizing it since you might have tucked it away so far you wont let yourself see it hence why you maybe were blinded to this person you were recently involved with Take some time for yourself man, hang out with friends, family, etc etc.

I forgot one, Bewildered, you said you were studying psychology, Boundaries are a huge part of behavioral Psychology. Talking toflirting with and romancing someones wife shows a huge lack of boundariesas well as a huge lack of empathy for the spouse of that person. Please man, think about this very hard before you brush it off.

Did she divorce her husband or just move out still actively married? Did she show you divorce papers? ChristianI knew her as an old school friend, we chatted about old times and aquaintances! I didnt pursue her and actually made it very clear that it was very important that she work at her marriage because I would not come between that!

After two weeks of our first meet she had left him, filed for divorce which yes I saw the papers for! She told me that they had been on and off for years which was confirmed by my own mother who knew her! Boundaries are extremely important in every ct of life, especially this ct. I also understand these types of people can con you, reel you in, and convince you what YOU are doing is perfectly fine even if it goes against your better judgement.

Keep your eyes openyour ears, and practice trusting your intuition She convinced you to ignore Boundaries, and forget about empathy The devil is very slick. Stay strong and stay away from her.

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Yes Christian a divorce takes a long time to complete! If there are difficulties such as the spouse not wanting one or agreeing to the grounds of divorce then it can take years! Our relationship began when her relationship to him was over. Like I said. He moved straight out of there marital home and in no time met someone else who he is still with to this day!

He has never been hostile to me and in fact shook my hand on a number of occasions ie Christmas! I almost feel that he was glad to be rid as there relationship was very much on off. Thanks for your advice, been here before but feel this time things have gone way too far! Why would she want you to get rid of a tattoo of your wife? That is outrageous. You were a widow and she was the mother of your children. Did she expect you to banish their mother from their life?

I have such deep regret but I covered it with a rose which is symbolic to my late wife! I will be getting it altered and also having her name covered up next sat! Cant come quick enough! I feel so ashamed for how I have allowed this and to be controlled! To be honest I have messed up so many times since my wifes death and this is my wake up call! Grief changes us.

Sociopaths and depression I was dating a sociopath for 7 months. Of course I had no idea he was a sociopath in the beginning but I did feel something was off & didn't feel right. In the beginning, I think he sensed that and I even voiced it a few times so he was constantly saying and doing the right things. Always appearing at my work. Life after dating a psychopath can be extremely difficult when a person does not know that their ex-partner was a psychopath. There is typically a lot of confusion, desperation, self blame, frustration and a whole host of other emotions.

For a while at least. Someone once said to me. With grief. I think that is true. Christianthankyou for taking the time to reply and you are very much correct! It all is so obvious now but even back then I felt something not quite right in my gut!

I used to wonder that her marriage was like that because she never really loved him? She said he had so many affairseven slept with her sister which by the way from what I hear, she has very similar traits Funny I was always warned by spath that if ever I got friendly with her sister and even sat and had a coffee with her then we would be over! All your insites are correct I believe, I was just blinded by the lies!

I know now actually outside looking in. The way I feel right now I will find it very hard to trust again or certainly for a long while, maybe this really is a blessing in disguise to sort my head and my life out to get back on the right path!

For the first time in about 4 years I sat and tried meditating yesterday, lit incense today as I really feel that in some way I have caused this by not listening to the inner me! So yes this is my karma, I accept it, I hurt but if this is what it has taken for me to sort myself out then I am grateful!

I bet if you spoke to the ex-husband you would find his story just like yours as he has also been duped by her.

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My heart also goes out to you bewildered So sorry for your ordeal. Strength to you and your children. Very proud of my kids, they are remarkably well balanced and happy kids and have and continue to cope brilliantly! Losing their mum, a move across the other side of the world and a disfunctional relationship in nearly 3 years is pretty huge! I will take all advice, take my time to heal and become strong again! Feel very tired now! I wanted to post here on this particular blog page as i wrote a post on September the 8th on this particular blog and at the time i was still struggling and lost.

I have come a long way in 2 months. I have come a very long way in the five months since my ex charismatic Soc blindsided me in the middle of IVF. It is 2 months since i wrote on this post i have definitely written a lot elsewhere on this website and i am now definitely in stage 7. I have no doubt whatsoever that he is a sociopath.

How even 1 month ago I was fighting to believe his lies and that the dream he painted was really real. But now i know that my gut was real and that his lies were lies. Most of the lies i will never be able to prove but i know inside of me what the truth is. He is not right in the head. He is without a doubt in my mind a sociopath.

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Never any real feelings, it was all about him and what i could do for him and when he was done there was no remorse or care for me at all. He was done. I accept that nowAs this blog says, it is liberating to be in this stage of healing. It is empowering to have this understanding. In 2 days it is 5 months since we broke up and ironically it would have been our 2 year anniversary. It is also exactly 1 year since our first break up 6 weeks separated.

But i knew the day i left the house that i would never contact him again. And i only responded to him where i absolutely had too. He has not contacted me in that 3 months and for a long time this really hurt. Now i am grateful as it gave me the head space and distance to fully understand the reality and to let my emotions catch up to my rational brain.

Do i think that he will contact me again? Maybe when he gets bored with his latest conquest. One way or the other. And there is nothing i can say that will achieve anything. I guess this really emphasizes the importance of no contact as i would not be this healed if i had had any contact with him.

It is great to be in this stage of healing.

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I had no understanding of how i got here. Dreams that he painted so masterfully and that got me in hook line and sinker. Reading back over older posts I relate to them even more now than i did at the start. I guess what i want to say to everyone that is new to the site, that are feeling such incredible pain and loss and confusion, that you will get better and it will get easier and out of it you will actually get a stronger sense of self and a stronger love of life.

I know this as i am now there. Dont be hard on yourself. Learn as much as you can. Reach out to those here and slowly you will get through this. I am now focusing on me. Building a plan for the future. A better life than i had before i met him and definitely better than anything he was actually capable of sharing with me.

I am focusing on getting healthy physically and mentally to give myself the best opportunity possible to have a baby. On my own. But better on my own than with a sociopath.

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I wish you all the best and all strength and peace and love. Remember to love yourself.

Mar 31,   A relationship with a sociopath can be very traumatic and almost always includes intimidation, lies, dishonesty, some level of abuse, manipulations, aggressive behavior, financial theft, etc. I've written an article entitled Identifying Losers in Relationships that discusses the techniques used by Antisocial and other personality disorders. Dec 24,   Depression Hangs Around. The problem is that once you learn that it's futile to try, this is hard to unlearn. As a result, after being eroded by a sociopath, you may not attempt to exert effort to advance your interests in future situations, even when the situation is different and new efforts are likely to yield positive results. May 31,   Dating a sociopath, having any type of relationship with a sociopath, is usually a shallow, confusing, one-sided experience. "Having a psychopath [or sociopath] in your life can be an emotionally draining, psychologically debilitating, and sometimes physically harmful .

We are all really good people that have had some bad luck but we will all get through this. I believe in me and you. Go you!!! The nightmares and chest palpitations have stopped. The anxiety has stopped. The confusion has stopped.

I have stopped thinking about her. I am ready to move on. SO, thanks! I agree Broken!! Thanks to the creator and everyone who posts on this site and shares to help others.

I am getting back on my feet and back to my old self. The stories on here are spread knowledge, strength and support to those who need it. Wishing everyone the best!! Oh my word! I am right now out of a year long dating relationship with a sociopath.

I am exhausted, and emotionally beaten up. Maybe I am insecure and argumentative and cold and distant and not able to may any relationship work the list goes on and on. I have nobody who understands.

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I feel great relief at finding that I am not alone. What I can tell you? No Contact, get your things in order, return his belongings, through shipping them if you can, and go cold No contact at all.

No social media or anything that relates to him. Be kind to yourself, spend time with friends and doing things you enjoy or used to enjoy before this jerk showed up and took over your life. Get physically and mentally healthy again. I am convinced there are good guys out there - now you know the warning signs of the sp. It sure seems a lot of us on this site have gone through a major learning curve this year. I am also going to buy a beautiful box and put pictures and words in it which represent everything I want in my life including a romantic relationship with a GOOD man The pictures I have chosen are beautiful and make me so happy just looking at them.

Thank GOD! Merry Christmas to everyone else on this site, and I wish you all of the love and healing possible for this season and the year ahead. The sociopaths undermine other people. That is how they operate. I recognize this more and more. Just like those agents in Matrix movie. Even Neo was afraid of them, but then in one moment they became slow and lousy compared to Neo because he became quicker and stronger than them.

That is how we too become better equipped in dealing with sociopaths. The crucial point is in becoming sociopath aware, you will get better Just keep the no contact and read, work on solving your existential, basic things. As one Chinese saying says : Even the journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. Focus on these first steps and you will progress.

This site is great with posts and so many good quality comments of people that are going through the same. It will help you in your getting better. You are not alone. Its been a long hard journey but, with wonderful people like yourself, its been much easier. It is hard when you have no one to talk to who understands.

He has made me feel like I do not deserve better. I am an analytical but compassionate person, so it is so hard trying not to replay memories in my head. I have really felt so alone, so reading that there are other people out there who do understand is encouraging.

Hi mtm, yes I understand what you are saying. I have experienced the exact same emotions as you. The only way to start on the road to healing and recovery is to go no contact.

I appreciate that this is not always easy or perhaps even possible. If you start from day one, and keep going, it will start to get better, and you can undo the mindset that he has created for you.

It is not factual, it is based on HIS reality not yours!!! The more I ponder over his behaviour and the words he used I reckon he knows who and what he is. There is a part of me that can see the mental health part of this and realise how damaged he is. His mother was at the root of it all. She had no empathy and everyone found her demands over the top.

I flatly refused to reply to any of his messages. Thank God for that.

Depression after dating sociopath

Stephanie Dowrick probes the riches and depths of happiness in this excellent book that combines psychological insights with spiritual values. Here is an excerpt on forgiveness. What follows is a summary, recognizing that when forgiveness is absent, so is self-respect and perhaps self-love.

We live in a world where cycles of revenge or just plain bitterness and resentment rule in countless encounters from the most private to the most public.

I may despise everything about you. But I nevertheless acknowledge that you are a complex human being, as I am, and I do not wish you harm. Yet, no matter what we have done, reconciliation with ourselves remains just as essential if we are to go forward in our lives in a hopeful and compassionate way. However, these steps help both psychologically and spiritually.

You are forgiving to release yourself at least as much as the other person. And you are forgiving because you can. It is not condoning. It starts with a determination not to let those past hurts or betrayals dominate your entire existence. There may be some people you are better never to see, hear from, or even think about.

They may never understand. Take time to discover what you have learned. Pay attention to something uplifting. Focus on your strengths. But know that an apology is worthless if it is not backed up by a change in behavior. It means living without that person or event being constantly in your mind almost every second of the day. What you learn from a difficult situation, and from the process of forgiving, is worth remembering.

Give it a great heave! You are not causing that person harm; you are leaving them to their destiny. You are getting on with your own. It is a Divine quality that human beings can and must learn to practice. Pure awesomeness in that post! Its been a while since ive responded or made a contribution here. Life is very busy yet peaceful. I hope all of you are doing well! I am doing well without the spath, and would like to date again. This is unrealistic, but real to me.

Keeping them at a far distance. Over the top protecting myself. Did any if you go through this stage? Did you finally go easy on potential dates? Oh yes, im still there. Its been Months for me and the thought of dating is still a bit weird. I know it would be strange and id project onto anyone sitting across from me which isnt fair to them and tells me im just not ready for it yet. Time to be patient and heal first.

I think we just need time to even out. How long it might beI have no idea. But if I am honest, the damage done by narcissist was undone by the charismatic sociopath emotionally.

Thank you guys. I really feel ready to date. Positivagirl, I can see how that really would work. I am NOT going to see or date him. And my they do work hard at it. But my point is, that when you feel back your power, you WONT need it!!! When I met the last sociopath in my life, I WAS destroyed and broken, and he managed to lure me in - saying all the things that i needed to hear. And at that time, it was effective, and in some senses, it also provided some healing for me. I still know this person - its been a long journey - those words are no longer effective on me.

Simply because I have back my own power. I would prefer someone to just appreciate me for me, rather than to manipulate, mould and shape me. As that will never happen, and that is wasted energy. Just two people who get on, who have common interests, views, morals. Find yourself, and what is important to you. What you are passionate about.

What makes you tick, and you could find someone with equally matching passions as you - and then just naturally you will see the sparks fly!!

The horrific things he did without any remorse. I finally had enough 3 weeks ago.

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Focusing on recovering. Extremely painful. I find myself in stage 3 4 and 5 depending on how strong I feel at the time. Everything in this article is so on point. Proffesionalls bringing light to this terrible issue and ppl sharing their stories. I have been so broken at times I was thinking ending it all was the only solution to end the pain.

And I have always been so energetic loving life. But this sort of abuse is so horrific. Thank you for writing this. You are commenting using your WordPress. You are commenting using your Google account. You are commenting using your Twitter account. You are commenting using your Facebook account. Notify me of new comments via email.

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Notify me of new posts via email. I have already written how at the end of the relationship with the sociopath you go through Five stages of grief and the healing process Grieving the person that you thought you were with See healing and recovery section for these posts It can be difficult when you are in initial stages of break up. A quick walk through guide to healing and recovery Stage One - Disbelief As you read information, and you see virtually your ex waving back at you on the pages that you read.

Stage two - The fog of confusion In this stage, you are so confused. Stage Four - Isolation and emptiness The harsh reality of your life and the effects of the relationship, is now hitting you hard.

Stage Six - Acceptance, healing, recovery and focus back to you Acceptance is always the final stage of recovery. The answer is - yes you will!!! This is normal. You might drive people close to you, mad with your constant chopping and changing of mind about the sociopath. This is also normal too. If something is hurting you - this means that you are learning and growing. Remember when you were a child, you fell over and cut your knee? This is like No contact - you might get the urge to contact, just like the urge to scratch.

If you are struggling - if you have that itch - stop.

A Relationship With A Sociopath, Anxiety, And Depression

Its time for healing and recovery. Take one day at a time. Realise that the longer you were in the relationship - the longer it will take to fully heal and recover.

Rate this:. So many of their tactics are focused on making us fearful that fear and distrust eventually become our very core. Great ideas loveliesbleeding. I will do what you have suggested. Yes I do pay for the insurance. There is so much owed on that truck. I cannot make any money and I know I will owe thousands besides. I really messed up. Yes he knew and took advantage of credit cards and more. He owes I am hoping she wNts an end to any connection he and I still have and will facilitate future dealings with the horrible creature.

I despise them both deeply when I think about them. I try not to think about them though so I can have no feelings about them one way or another. I just want this to be over. I want to be happy again. Then he would fly into a rage over minor issues quite often. He has a selective memory by remembering my mistakes but forgets his own.

He would unexpectedly say hurtful things to me in his whatsapp messages which leaves me in tears. After an argument, he would suddenly text me then get short tempered if I ask him questions. Thank your blessings. He is still quite persistent in contacting me often. He has a third private overseas number which he used to call me today. So sorry to read. Ive heard shingles is horrible and is brought on by stress. I hope you are handling the stress better.

These types of relationships can literally kill you from the stress. Take care. The body will send signals when exposed to constant fight or flight, regardless of the source if the threat.

Alex Valasquez now in Spain produced an informative graphic of how the body releases chemicals in response to stress sending a cascade of inflammatory signals through our neuro-endo-immune systems - resulting in symptoms like constipation, anxiety, depression.

I read a lot about relationships with! I married one, thus the 4yearsofhell username. This is very hard to say as I have loved her deeply. I no longer speak with her and it has allowed me some clarity on my lifelong struggle with fear, anxiety, depression and physical signs like irritable bowel and leaky gut. I recognize diet and my own choices in creating these symptoms. If you are curious about the sciencelook up Functional Immunology.

I know that constant feeling of unease. Feeling crazy for feeling this way, but knowing if my ex gets an opportunity to harass me he will. Sure enough he does. This Christmas he happened to be in line behind me at food pantry. He loudly told the world that he is dating a year-old who has three kids.

He said he has NO problem with her kids. I suppose this is supposed to mean that my son was the problem, because he hated my son. All it told me is that he has access to destroy another family. There is something seriously wrong with him. Saying he is sorry while he tried to box me in. He did not give me an OUT in that letter. He said if I hate his guts just call him and tell him to fuck off. Then he called me days after the letter arrived. He called at at night!!! He said he would leave me alone, but then a year later he is standing in line behind me announcing that he is seeing a year old with three kids and that he has no problem with her kids.

The guy just is cycling! No wonder I always feel uneasy!!! Proof positive that these nut bags a perpetually crazy. The more I understand and the farther away I get from my experience with narcissistic sociopaths, the more I begin to laugh at them. They are so pathetic, and everything they project, is the real them, ya know, sans-serif the mask.

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Thank Goddess for space! I immediately went on the offensive. I advised her that I was feeling betrayed. My sensibilities have become my strength when in the past they were my weakness. This is an awesome place to come to after years and years of educating myself on the realities of sociopaths. Now I am sensitive to the slightest hint I am being lied to. He has been dating the married woman in December Please Login to comment. Notify of. December 28, pm. December 29, pm. Carinne Goh.

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